I have a dear friend that I would like to help in some way. You see, all of her children are grown and married and she now has several precious grandchildren. This friend's husband left her several years ago, leaving her to finish raising their three boys who were still at home, while her oldest child, her daughter was married and no longer living at home. My friend has been a teacher's aid in a local school system where she works with and signs for deaf students. She is a wonderful, compassionate christian woman and I cherish her friendship.
The difficulty is that she has does not have any money for Christmas. I'll be honest here and say that she does not do the best job of managing her money. She's talked to me repeatedly about this but in my efforts to offer her some sound advice, she usually comes up with reasons for why she does the things she does financially and so on.
Anywayyyyy.....the question.....what can she do for her children/grandchildren for Christmas that doesn't cost alot of money? Of course, the other grandparents involved DO have alot more money than she does and this always bothers her, making her feel like she HAS to do something, i.e. spend money on her kids and grandchildren that she doesn't really have.
We were talking yesterday and she was telling me that most of her grandchildren have need of nothing.......we all know how that is.......but they still expect things and gifts and money at Christmas and birthdays.
My friend is a wonderful grandmother. She spends time with her grandchildren and loves them to pieces. I just want to help her so that she doesn't go into debt getting things for her children and grandchildren that they don't need and she can't afford.
And, yes, I know I can offer all of the suggestions in the world and she may select to go ahead and do it her way, anyway, but I thought I would try to offer her some alternatives.
Any ideas, anyone? She has seven little grandsons under the age of ten. She has one granddaughter that is 2 and the other one is 16.