I remember many years ago, talking with my youth pastor, Bro. Kramer. I don't remember the actual gist of our conversation, but he ended up telling me that even though we're christians, that doesn't mean everyone is going to like us. And when we come across someone who doesn't like us, we can't take it personally. It is a choice THEY have made. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with us. Gosh, but that bit wisdom has helped me many times through the years, because I tend to look at the world through rose-colored glasses, think the best of everyone and just think everyone should like me. I mean, what's not to like? *grin*
Anywayyyyyy......this past week, I just happened to run across two people in particular who have never been especially fond of me. How do I know, you ask? Well, first of all, they act like it kills them to even say "hello" to me. You know, the just common, most simple acts of common courtesy. And, I do feel that I am a very approachable person. Oh, and we've never had any trouble between us, as we've never had anymore of a relationship than just saying "hello". But I can just tell that they don't particularly like me. So, the one lady is retired and working as a cashier at a local convenience store. I had gone there to buy some produce and meat for our supper, not even knowing that she worked there now. There were actually several of us there at the same time that had worked at or were still working at Smead, a local manufacturing plant. You know....they had just gotten off of work and were picking up some things for supper and so on, like me. Well, THIS lady retired from there. Anywayyyyy, so she is just talking up a storm to one of the other ladies that I had also been talking and laughing with, but then when it came time to check me out, she got this really sober expression on her face, though she did say hello and ask me if I was still at the library. BUT why couldn't she SMILE and be jovial with me. WHY did she have to act like it PAINED her to talk to me and be courteous? Well, I don't know the answer to that and don't need to know the answer. It's her problem. I smiled, endeavored to be friendly and so. Tis all a body can do.
Next, I am going to a local motel (Baymont Inn and Suites) three times a week, where I go swimming and do exercises and so on for my lower body. Dr. Gedeon recommended this as a great help, exercise and yet easy on my body. Soooooo, I see another lady there, who, over the years, has acted as though it pains her greatly to be courteous to me. BUT, I said hello to her anyway and she just kind of looked at me and said nothing. What? Huh? Go figure.
I am really past this bothering me, yet I just don't understand people who are like this. Maybe just because I am such an out-going person, that makes me much more sensitive to insensitive people like the above-mentioned,hm?
On to other things:
Daniel got his first paycheck this past Friday! It was a nice one, let me tell ya! His first REAL job and REAL paycheck. I am so happy for him and Erin! They are so blessed and fortunate! He also now has full health benefits for himself and Erin and one week of vacay!
Bethany, my niece, who was pictured with me in my previous profile pic (how do you like the new one?) is due to have her little baby July 24, so it could happen any day now!!
I went to see Dr. Gedeon Friday morning for the first time in about three weeks. I then went swimming and exercising. Now I am taking the swimming and water exercising slowly, so as not to aggravate my back, hips and legs too much. Well, the pain level has really spiked the past two days and night and my ability to walk and get around has really been hindered. I've not slept much the past two nights and have spent most of them either sitting up or in the recliner. I was not able to make it to church this morning, but will this evening. I'm not sure what is going on but I hope this, too, passes in time. I've not had this much pain and difficulty getting around for a loooong time. It has been a bit concerned actually. I'll keep you posted! Not to worry, though, for the Lord knows the path I take and "I am trusting in Christ alone"! *smile*
If you'd like to read a really cute and funny post, click on over here to Aidan's blog and have a read!
Oh, and I finished the Beverly Lewis' series "Abram's Daughers". Wow....it was a great read! I can't wait till I can get to the library to get another series. I'm hooked!
10 comments:
In the words of my grandfather... "not everyone wants the same things, if they did everyone would be after your grandmother"
You cant please everyone, everyone has different tastes, it is human to like some people more than others...
I do find it hard to believe that someone wouldn't like you. You appear very honest and open, and uncommonly kind.
In regard to the afgan i dont think i could accept it. But the offer means a lot to me thank you!
I've been watching Bethany's EC profile waiting for news. I'm so excited for her.
Also, it was a little weird hearing Bro.Kramer referred to as a youth pastor.
Oh Jewel ... I don't understand people like that either. The way I see it, if the whole world were perfect like me (and you of course! *grin*) then it would be an awfully boring place! LOL ;-)
Well, yeah, Aidan. LOL to the comment about your grandmother. Good point. *grin*
Yes, he WAS young, once, Becky. *grin* AND my youth pastor. Wow...so many years ago! LOL
Yes, perfection (like you AND me *oh brother*!) would lead to boredom I'm afraid. It's nice to see you again, Tersie! Thanks for stopping by!!
I'm usually a non-confrontational person, but when I find that people are being weird around me, I feel compelled to bring it up, get it out on the table, and ask if there's anything I have done to offend them, etc.
When you put the ball in people's court, it forces them to evaluate their own behavior. Not only that, but perhaps there is something that you are completely unaware of that people who are even more non-confrontational are loath to bring up.
This is how I feel: Look, I don't have time to walk on eggshells around you, neither do I have the brain energy to spare wondering why you behave the way you do around me, so let's talk about this thing.
I never used to be that way--for the longest, I couldn't even look people in the eye. But once I started taking a more direct approach to dealing with people, I've had so much more peace of mind.
Rofflll...I can see it now! Sis Jewel walking right up to that cashier and stopping the line to talk about why thet don't get along!?!?? LoL Oh...it would be so fun to be a fly on the wall...not that I am encouraging a confrontation...but you have to admit...that would be a riot to watch...
Hmmmm...I guess I never thought of just asking them why they don't like me, Chantelle. Yes, Jana, I can see me now...."Why don't you like me? What is there NOT to like?" A dear pastor's wife friend of mine said that there might be a possibility that they don't care for my "apostolicness". Whatever, I am not losing any sleep over this. *smile* I just find it interesting in the day-to-day interaction with people, you know. I always thought I'd like to be a psychologist, psychiatrist, so maybe it is the latent therapist in me trying to get out, in analyzing situations like this, hm? *grin*
Oh, Sister Jewel... Can I ever relate~ I was just at camp and saw a couple of people that "should be" my friends... but they acted like I wasn't even there. When they walked by, I would get ready to speak and they would turn their heads and act like they didn't see me. Duh...I'm not stupid! You are so right... it hurts. I would like to go up and say "Hey! What's the deal?!?" But there is that chance that they may again be unkind and who wants to risk that? It's best to try and forget it and follow Bro. Kramer's advice. It's not easy, but it's best... Love ya, Sis!
BTW, not sure why my name above is listed as "all about me..." It certainly is NOT all about me... well, at least not MOST of the time... ;))) Hope you're having a happy week!
Hey, Sis. Tracy! Welcome, welcome! Yes, well, I find it much easier to deal with if it is someone that I know is not a christian but it really "burns my biscuits" when it is a "supposed" christian!!! What's up with that, hm?
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